Change of Heart

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I made a promise not so long ago
That I will take care of you
I promised to be your friend
Till the world comes to an end

We made good music together
Perfect harmony with each other
I’m like the lyrics and you are the melody
Of this beautiful song’s story

You are my best friend and you know that
I’ll be with you and there’s no doubt
But something happened deep inside
I can’t continue to be at your side

Forgiveness

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HE is the embrace and the essence of forgiveness..!

I once read one of the most cynical statements about forgiveness. It went by like this:

“When I was a kid I used to pray every night for a new bicycle. Then I realized that the Lord doesn’t work that way. So I stole one and asked Him to forgive me!” (Emo Philips)

Yet, Christian love becomes almost disembodied and a thin vapor without the steely act of forgiveness – be it on the home front or the global setting.

Here are a few thoughts on “FORGIVENESS”:

• The most creative power given to the human spirit is the power to heal the wounds of a past it cannot change.
• We do our forgiving alone inside our hearts and minds; what happens to the people we forgive depends on them.
• The first person to benefit from forgiving is the one who does it.
• Forgiving happens it three stages: we rediscover the humanity of the person who wronged us; we surrender our right to get even; and we wish that person well.
• Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey.
• Forgiving does not require us to reunite with the person who broke our trust.
• We do not forgive because we are supposed to; we forgive when we are ready to be healed.

Lyrics: உயிரை தொலைத்தேன்..

படம்: காதல் வேண்டும்
இசை: ஜெய்
பாடியவர்: திலீப் வர்மன்

உயிரை தொலைத்தேன்..
அது உன்னில்தானோ..
இது நான் காணும் கனவோ நிஜமோ..
மீண்டும் உன்னை காணும் வரமே
வேண்டும் எனக்கே மனமே மனமே..
விழியில் விழுந்தால்.. ஆஆஆஆஆ..
என்னில் எனதாய் நானே இல்லை..
எண்ணம் முழுதும் நீதானே
என் கண்ணே..
(உயிரை..)

Pain of Love

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable.

It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…

You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages.

It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”

- Neil Gaiman

You

Our past is one to write about..
We were doing alright but then
you lied to me… and broke our trust
your apologies are some that I’m not sure
if I’m going to accept this time…

Saying “No” to Possessive Urges

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I received a request recently to write about how to avoid acting possessive. Here goes.

The tendency to feel possessive about someone is very natural, but it should never be indulged. So…what if you’re feeling possessive, and bordering on acting possessive? Maybe it wasn’t an issue for the first few weeks of your relationship, but now you want him/her all to yourself and you occasionally make an effort to accomplish this. You know this isn’t the way you’re supposed to act, but what can you do??

First of all, just breathe for a minute, cookie. Chances are, you’re probably super-stressed to begin with. So breathe. Close your eyes and take full, deep breaths, filling your belly with air…then your center…and then your chest. Notice the thoughts moving through your mind, but don’t focus on any particular thought…just let them continue moving, like clouds. Exhale slowly, imagining all of your body’s tension leaving you. Take the next few minutes to just breathe. … Feel a little better? If you don’t, repeat the breathing exercise a few more times.

Now that you’re a bit more relaxed, let’s move on.

Possessiveness = Bad

There are a lot of people out there who will tell you that “possessiveness cannot exist in a happy, healthy relationship.” Very true. Why? Because possessiveness is never a good thing. And the more you know about it, the better chance you have at avoiding relationships with possessive people. So, if you are interested in leading a happy, drama-free love life, read on!

A while ago, a friend of mine, Jenna, was in a long-distance relationship with a guy named Cole. They’d see each other maybe 3 or 4 times a year, exchange “I love you”s and argue a bit before saying goodbye. They both had impressive sex drives, and would frequently include other people in their adventures. Cole would continue his sexual fun with others after Jenna had gone, because she had always been very clear about her lack of expectations. This was all well and good, until Cole pitched a huge fit when Jenna expressed interest in doing the same. For many months, they argued, and Jenna would always wind up crying and telling Cole that she loved him, she was sorry, wouldn’t seek outside relationships, etc..

Possessiveness is, according to Dictionary.com, “Having or manifesting a desire to control or dominate another, especially in order to limit that person’s relationships with others.” Um…does this sound like a good thing to you? Possessiveness does not belong in any relationship, Love, marriage, friendship etc.. The tendency to feel possessiveness about someone is, I think, very natural, but it should never be indulged.

படித்ததில் பிடித்த கவிதை – 19

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“இறந்த பின்பும்
ஒரே குழியில் புதைபடவேண்டும்”
என்றெல்லாம்
பேசிக்கொண்டவர்கள் நாம்.
காலம்
கற்றுத் தந்திருக்கிறது பார்த்தாயா….?
பார்த்தும்… எது குறித்தும்
பேசாமல் பிரிவதற்கு.

- நீ எழுத மறுக்கும் எனதழகு – இளம்பிறை
Source: Tamil Nenjam.com

காதலாகி கசிந்துருகி…

ராகம்: ஷ்ண்முகப்பிரியா

காதலாகி கசிந்துருகி கண்ணீர் மல்கி
ஓதுவார் தமை நல்நெறிக்கு உய்ப்பது
வேதநான் கினும் மெய்பொருள் ஆவது
நாதன் நாமம் நமச்சிவாயமே

ஆடிய பாதனாய் நின்ற அம்பலத்தானை
நாடிய நேசற்கு நற்கதி நல்கியானை
கூடிய கரமும் நாவில் துதியுமாய்
தேடிய வந்தேன் புகல்

ராகம்:- பெஹாக்
தாளம்:- ஆதி

இதுதனோ தில்லைத்தலம்
இத்தனை நாளும் அறியேனே…(இதுதானோ)

அதுவோ இதுவோ என்று அலைந்திடும் நேயனை
கதிதருவேன் என்று கைகாட்டி அழைத்திடும்…(இதுதானோ)

காசினியில் இதை கயிலை என்று எல்லோரும்
பேசக்கேட்டதே அன்றி பேணிப் பார்த்ததில்லை …(இதுதானோ)

//–Source: மூன்றாம் திருமுறை – திருஞான சம்பந்தர் தேவாரம் –//

Lyrics: Last Christmas

To watch the song click here.

Last Christmas I gave you my heart
But the very next day you gave it away
This year to save me from tears
I’ll give it to someone special

Last Christmas I gave you my heart
But the very next day you gave it away
This year to save me from tears
I’ll give it to someone, I’ll give it to someone special

Once bitten and twice shy
I keep my distance but you still catch my eye
Tell me, baby, do you recognize me?
Well, it’s been a year, it doesn’t surprise me

‘Happy Christmas’, I wrapped it up and sent it
With a note saying, ‘I love you’, I meant it
Now I know what a fool I’ve been
But if you kissed me now, I know you’d fool me again

Last Christmas I gave you my heart…(2)

Crowded room, friends with tired eyes
I’m hiding from you and your soul of ice
I thought you were someone to rely on
Me, I guess I was a shoulder to cry on

A face on a lover with a fire in her heart
A man undercover but you tore me apart…O…
Now I’ve found a real love, you’ll never fool me again

Last Christmas I gave you my heart …(2)
A face on a lover…
Last Christmas I gave you my heart…